Innocent Reasons Why You’re Not Having Sex With Your Partner #1

How long has it been since you two had sex?  Does it feel like ages since you and your partner were intimate?  Or maybe you have been, but it just lacks that spark and feels like something you just do, rather than something you look forward to.

If any of these sound like your current situation then you might be feeling a bit worried about what is really going on.

Sadly, lots of relationships don’t seem to last very long these days and often it comes down to a simple lack of communication.  Issues don’t get addressed and then things spiral out of control, something tiny turns into everything massive and suddenly your relationship is O V E R!

It is easy to imagine the worst and jump to conclusions.  But… what if it’s actually something really simple??  What if you could fix it in the next 10 minutes???

Follow along and over the next couple of weeks as we talk about the possible answers to your troubles, and some simple ideas on what you can do to get things back on track.

Number ONE… Tiredness

Seems pretty simple right?  When you are tired, it’s pretty hard to get in the mood for a bit of physical activity.  But… when you (or your partner) is feeling tired, just the idea of sex is too much to handle.  Tiredness can quickly turn into anger or other emotions so tread… very… carefully…!

Communication is key here.  If you are the one that is tired… say so!  As soon as possible too.  Don’t wait until your partner tries it on with you and then snap at them and make them feel like you aren’t into them.  Say something like “Oh man, I’m so tired! I could really do with a bubble bath and an early night”  maybe add “wearing my super comfy, not-at-all-sexy PJ’s” just in case they think the bubble bath thing is like some sort of invite.  If they do still try, just be honest.  Let them know you really need to sleep and you could also suggest a date night for another time.

If it is them that is tired.  Hopefully they have given you some indication that they are.  It might even be a constant excuse and you are probably really sick of hearing it.  But you can choose not to to take it to heart.  Try turning it into around by showing them some kindness and maybe suggesting something relaxing for them.  Remember that romance doesn’t have to lead to sex.  You could ask if you can give them a back rub to help them fall asleep, or go and fill up a hot water bottle for them.  Kindness is sexy.  When someone feels wanted, they are more likely to want you right back.  You never know, it might even initiate something!!

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